Why do people find it so hard to ask what they want to know? Could it be they already know the answers, and they are afraid to have their suspicions verified? Or are they just afraid of the answers they think they will receive? Could it be the answers will reveal a flaw in them? Could it be the question will open them up to see the action of the other was prompted by a flaw in them?
We are all flawed. None of us are perfect and none of us act perfectly all the time. Sometimes our actions are misinterpreted by others. And those misinterpretations cause others to act inappropriately.
If you want to know the truth, just ask.